Has your boss told you harsh things? Has your senior tried
to show you how incompetent or ignorant you are? Has your colleague passed some
really bad comment to you out of sheer jealousy or intolerance? ………….
These are some of the situations we face in our professional
lives every day – someone trying to belittle us, humiliate us or simply exploit
us. These are practical problems. We need to find solutions to them. We
vehemently search for solutions. We ask friends, parents, colleagues for
solution. Because normal human beings without psychiatric disorders can’t
remain sane for a long time under the stress of constant problems. So we need
solutions.
The types of solutions to professional problems can be of
two types: remove the external factors like change your job, stop going to
places, stop interacting with disturbing people. But these are not always
possible in a professional life.
The other solution lies within us, that is behaving
according to the merit of the problem – like ignoring some, protesting some and
enduring some. The aim of doing all this is to maintain peace and balance in
our own lives and continuing our progress in life. Otherwise we might get so
busy solving problems that we may forget to develop.
We humans as long as we are on this earth, we will have
conflicts. Just recollect world history and you will see that human history is
by and large history of wars and conflicts. See the world now, almost half of
the world is ravaged by war and one human torturing or killing another human
being. The number of humans dying due to natural disasters and non-human
animals is nothing compared to the numbers killed by fellow humans. I know, I
sound disturbing. But what I want to say is that there is and there will always
be conflicts. You may change your job, your place – but then a new set of
unanticipated problems will arise at the new place.
The best policy is to change ourselves, make ourselves more
battle-ready and capable of handling stressful situations. Live in this world
but don’t be of the world. There will always be “gol maal” (meaning trouble) in
this world – leave the gol (meaning zero) and pick-up the maal (gain).
We have to actively choose between the various options
available as solutions for a problem. The best option is to put all your
efforts to solve it. If trying to solve a problem is not the best option
available, we can ignore it. Like we can ignore the bad remarks of a colleague
who is acting out of jealousy. We have to endure some problems for some time as
we have our own motives. Whatever is the path we choose, we must remember that
nothing comes easily. Every bit of mental effort you are putting towards the
solution of a problem needs your attention and energy. The solution lies in our
EFFORTS, EFFORTS AND EFFORTS. The path you choose is not fixed and it need not
be. Because none can predict, not even you, what situations you will face
today. But to be capable of handling it and not losing mental balance is what
our aim is. The outcome may not always be favourable to you, but you can be
happy considering the amount of effort you put into solving the problem. We all
want our lives to be smooth. We all tend to believe in “live and let live”. But
somehow every day we face many unnecessary problems from other fellow men.
Take your time, write down your present concerns. Analyse
each problem and write down the possible solutions and you may find a better
answer. There is an old saying “If you want to know what your destiny is, then
watch out where you are investing your time.” So invest your time and energy in
search of a better life and you will find one. In the end your efforts and
experiences are all yours and nobody can take that from you.
